Marriage and sacrifices

Well let's just agree that marriage needs a lot of sacrificing to make it work. In most instances the society will congratulate you if they notice improvements in a man's life even if it takes away a little bit or more of you. We might shout to the roof top preaching how times have changed and gone are the days when women were married to build a man but deep down we know nothing has changed. I always say the woman is the sacrifice made in a marriage. For instance i am a lover of nature and i could travel anywhere just to find myself surrounded by nature. But because i am a married woman i had to tone a bit on my travelling so i can cater to my role as a wife.
I once travelled to East London for 2 weeks and when i got back you would swear i took the house and the air that my husband breath with me, or even his ability to think or do things(giggles). My inlaws were on my case and making sure i felt like a failed wife.

Has anyone else noticed how most men stop wanting to do things or even go anywhere with their women once married?  My husband and i used to travel a lot but lately he never wants to go anywhere with me unless it is his family gatherings. I mean i even attend parents meetings alone but no one says anything about that because it is my duty,right? Our Kids are my duty and he can just be a parent only when he feels like it but that is okay because my kids comes first in anyway. I used to be a bubbly and outgoing person but i had to change all that because i am a wife now. A wife should be found at home, a wife can't go on vacations without her husband, if she wants to go and he doesn't then we are not going. Oh yes but if he wants to go somewhere and i don't feel like going i have to go because a wife obeys. We should just stop talking about 50/50 because reality is we are in the 50/30 era. I love my husband don't get me wrong but being a wife is a bit overwhelming sometimes. Most of us get into marriage thinking we are getting into a two way street marriage only to learn that you are becoming a mother away from his mother to him. His life is pretty much still the same and we adjusted a lot on mine. My inlaws are watching me like a hawk.

When his baby mama complains about him missing a month on the child's maintenance i become the number one suspect. What they don't know is i sometimes send the child my own money just to avoid arguments. I once visited my inlaws and found the baby mama there,wearing my husband's shirt that we forgot the last time we slept there, i never asked questions i just acted like i was just passing by and i left. I have never spoken about the pain i felt that day. I remember when i was told i should convience my husband to take a second wife, that is the day i realised that my inlaws will never like me no matter my efforts. My step child has turned into their spy.